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The 12 Essential Life Anchors Be Your Own Life Coach Dr. Joe Famularo (3 min read) “It doesn’t cost anything to live the IOU Principle, but you must start and be persistent.” Learn how to be your own life coach! Be Your Own Life Coach         What if there were a life coach who would be available for you 24/7 for an entire year to help you reach your goals with a positive attitude? Michael Serwa is one such life coach who claims to be the highest-paid personal life coach in the United Kingdom. He works with top executives for an annual fee to help them feel peaceful and happy. Several of Serwa’s clients said they felt balance in their lives and better understood themselves and what was important to them after working with him. Many coaches will work with you one-on-one to find balance in your life, build positive relationships, and improve your outlook on life. As I reviewed many of these coaches’ goals, I noticed one common theme: success is measured by their clients’ happiness and fulfillment. Serwa states that general happiness is almost always the average of all the other areas addressed in his consultations. So, what’s the secret to happiness? It’s quite simple—it’s the average of everything going on in your life. It’s common sense that there is no way you will be happy if your relationships are toxic or your career is failing. We need to ask what areas provide the most growth opportunities and concentrate on them to grow our happiness.         The ultimate goal is to increase your Happiness level, along with increases in Peacefulness, Healthiness, and Excellence. By studying your Inward Intelligence, you will begin to understand yourself and then create a plan to improve your Outward Actions, ultimately leading to the Upward Living Gifts of your PH2E. This should be a systematic approach to aligning your innate, internal wisdom to your purpose and passions and then moving Outwardly toward fulfilling your goals and dreams. My book, IOU Life Leadership, provides this systematic approach by introducing 12 Essential Life Anchors which are timeless and universal Life Principles that can transform your life.         It doesn’t cost anything to live the IOU Principle, but you must start and be persistent. You need to choose to begin walking the path to take control of your life, which will start with understanding your thinking and your Inward purpose and passions to gain more clarity, confidence, and an Outward action plan to move forward and build upon them. Be your own life coach and begin today! IOU LIVING ~ IOU LIFE LEADERSHIP™

The 12 Essential Life Anchors The IOU Life Living Wheel and The 12 ESSENTIAL LIFE ANCHORS Dr. Joe Famularo (4 min read) The Upward Life Gifts of Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence are the most important qualities we strive for in life. Every relationship, event, and action is accompanied by a byproduct or result. Our hope is for a byproduct that increases our PH2E. Don’t you wish your life was filled with Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence? What is PH2E? Stephen M. R. Covey wrote: “IOU Life Leadership provides a useful map of living from the inside out, with the ultimate goal of Upward Living and receiving the great gifts of life that we all desire: Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence…which Joe has termed as PH2E.”      The greatest gifts in life are your PH2E! The Upward Life Gifts of Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence are the most important qualities we strive for in life. Every relationship, event, and action is accompanied by a byproduct or result. Our hope is for a byproduct that increases our PH2E. Don’t you wish your life was filled with Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence?      How does it make you feel when you eat something delicious? Can you recreate that same feeling without eating? Of course not. That Upward good feeling from eating the delicious meal arises from the action of eating. Life Leadership is the action you take to provide you with the Upward Living Life Gifts of PH2E. Just as you cannot simply create the feeling of that delicious meal, we also cannot produce on demand the feelings of Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence. Only positive and effective Inward Thinking and Outward Actions will lead to the Upward Living Life Gifts we all desire.  Inward Living is the principle of thinking and self-reflection while Outward Living is the principle of interacting with others and the world. To increase our PH2E, we should reflect on how to live Inwardly and Outwardly in a positive and effective manner?      Nobody can decide our Inward Being, only we do. When we let Outward people decide our Inward state of mind, it’s because we don’t know where our Inward control center is. We need to understand our Inward Thinking to reach our highest possible PH2E which can expand limitlessly to ever new highs. Having that mindset will allow us to feel incredible peace and happiness. Our days will be filled with joy, and when negative events occur, our high PH2E level will neutralize them.      Consider the freedom you have to determine your Outward Actions. You have control over how you act in all situations. Therefore, before you act Outwardly, pause and think Inwardly. It’s the pauses that give you freedom. If your Inward Thinking and Outward Actions are positive and effective you will receive Upward Life Gifts into one or more of your PH2E reservoirs.      To be Life Leaders, we need to strive to have balanced levels of our PH2E. This means we shouldn’t focus on and value just one, say Happiness or Excellence, over the others. All of the Upward Life Gifts of Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence work as one and, when optimized, will help us begin to develop a Dynamic Positive Culture.  When we receive high levels of Peacefulness, Happiness, Healthiness, and Excellence (PH2E) as a byproduct of our positive and effective Inward and Outward Living, we not only affect our lives, but we move toward a Dynamic Positive Culture for our families, teams, and organizations as well.